ANXIETY... Is Not What You Have, It’s Something You Do!

“If we don’t recognize what is going on in our mind, we find it easy to assume, that somehow our anxieties come to us ready made from the outside.  It can feel as though they are happening to us and that they are caused by something outside of us.”

The way people think and speak about anxiety is as if it is a condition, or something that has “happened” to you.  The problem with this perspective is it relinquishes all control over the situation and makes people victims of their anxieties.

Take the example of “The Speeding Car” to illustrate my point.  If you were standing in the middle of the road as a speeding car came headed straight towards you, you would be experiencing a great deal of anxiety.  But if you were wearing your iPod headphones and had your back turned as the car bore down on you, you wouldn’t experience any anxiety at all.  In other words, the anxiety is not in the car or in the situation, it is in you.

It is only when you become aware of the car and begin to attach significant meaning to the situation that the anxiety comes into play.  Anxiety is not what we have it’s what we do.  In some situations, “doing” anxiety can be helpful.  (Preparing your body to leap out of the way of an oncoming car would be one good example!)

But attaching meaning to something has another effect also.  Once we attach meaning to something we begin to notice it more.  If we interpret something as stressful, not only do we “do anxiety” in response, but we also begin to pay more attention to it, leading to even more anxiety.

In addition, our brains have evolved to explore possibilities or to imagine things that aren’t true.  This ability allows us to hope and plan for the future, to be creative and to innovate, and to test ideas in our minds before applying them in the real world.  But it also allows us to worry, as we imagine potentially negative “what if” scenarios in our future.

If we don’t understand how anxiety works, we are likely to be confused as to why we are feeling the way we are feeling: “Why do I feel this way?”  “Why is this happening to me?”  But if we understand this is something our minds are doing to test possibilities, then we can consider other possibilities.  We can choose to focus our minds on different things.  Anxiety is not what we have it’s what we do.“Our minds are rarely idle.  If we are not engaged in some immediate task we spend much of our time going over the past or trying to imagine some aspect of the future.”

If you know that anxiety is not what you have, but what you do, you can choose when and how much you will do it.  I’m not an advocate of eliminating anxiety entirely. For me, it’s more about developing your psychological flexibility and your ability to be master of your own mind, rather than a slave to it.

Have you been doing anxiety lately?  Maybe it’s time to take back control of your mind!

Success Principles That You Cannot Miss!

If you are looking for ways how to be successful in your life, this will be the right place for you! In this article, you are going to discover the 3 guaranteed success principles that never fail. As long as you follow through these principles, you are going to improve the quality of your life and be successful!

Most people do not follow through these principles, and this is what makes them fail to produce the amazing results they want in their life. If you want to be successful in your life, follow through and apply these principles right now...

* The first principle that you must apply is to know exactly what you want to accomplish in your life and think about it all the time. The main difference between successful people and normal people is that successful people have vision, they know specifically what they want and they focus in thinking about it all the time. As a result, they conditioned the idea of success into their mind, which makes them successful.

* The second principle of success is to be passionate and feel the excitement in your life. You must do what you love in order to tap into your full potential. If you are not doing something you love, you will never be passionate and motivated. As a result, you will never get things done perfectly and you will never put in your heart into doing it. Successful people love their work so much and for them, their work equal play. If you apply this principle into your life, you will never work for another day.

* The third principle is to adopt the habit of constant learning. Spend at least 30 minutes into reading self-improvement books or the field that you are interested in improving in your life. If you do this for the next 3 years, you are going to live your life from good to great. The ultimate key to greatness is consistency in learning. The more you learn the more you will grow and improve in your life.

Do you want to make your dreams and goals come true in a simple, easier and faster way? Are you really serious to live the kind of lifestyle you desire and do you want to be more successful? If so, you now know where to begin... SO GO FOR IT!

Personal Development Is For All Ages! 

When I first started exploring personal development I was a teenager. I imagine that personal development will be something that I continue to embark on until the day I die. From where I stand, I don't see any reason to stop. There are always things to improve upon in one's life: health, relationships, career, finances, hobbies, talents, or other personal goals. So long as you are breathing, you are developing and changing as a person. I think that is something that should be embraced if we want to get the most out of our lives.

From what I gather when writing this blog and interacting with others, people who are interested in personal development come from all different age groups. I've exchanged e-mails with people who are barely 16 years old, and then others who are well over 70. 

My belief that personal development is for all ages stems from my belief that personal development is a never-ending process. Once we experience success, there is always another plateau to be reached. Why stop? Just keep going, keep exploring your boundaries, and keep working on new skills and abilities. I think most people would be surprised on just how much they can accomplish when they really dedicate themselves toward making consistent progress.

In my utopia, I would make personal development a part of our schools curriculum. I think there are too many people graduating high school and college without any understanding of their values, beliefs, attitudes, and how they have come to know and understand their map of the world. I don't think we are ever too young (or too old) to start actively working on ourselves.

It's odd how the sole purpose of school is learning, yet we rarely learn how to be good learners. It wasn't until I started reading certain books in college that I realized I was looking at education through a completely faulty paradigm. Schools taught me how to regurgitate facts and get good grades, but the books I read taught me that education is a process that has to be met with enthusiasm and an intense passion for the topic being learned. Since then, I've never looked back. The more I became passionate, the more I learned, and the better of a person I seem to have become. I imagine instilling this same attitude in children at a young age would lead to significant improvements in individual's ability to succeed and prosper in life. I know that it is something that I would want my kids to learn as early as possible.

On the other hand, one can never be too old to start improving aspects of one's life. And since people are never perfect (and perfection, if anything, is a myth), I believe this is a huge motivation to always want to make progress. I don't know anyone who is successful that doesn't still seek to expand themselves in different ways. It doesn't mean one can't be happy with their life, only that these individuals are always looking to test their boundaries. Their personal development is a constant expansion of themselves.

So long as you can think, feel and are conscious, you have the power to make decisions in your life and influence your world. It's that simple. Whether you are a new-born or on your death-bed about to utter your last few words, you are making your mark so make it count!

Changing Negatives To Positives!

Occasionally people will ask me how I keep a positive attitude, or remain optimistic. I used to find it funny that I would get asked such things. It was as though they assumed that somehow I'd figured a way to avoid allowing any negatives into my life at all. I can assure you I have not!

After all, I am only human and the reality is that no matter how positive one strives to be, negative feelings can still make their way into our life.

With that said, there are things I believe we can do to minimize the effects that our negative experiences have on us and our over all outlook on things. Just as there are things to help combat tendencies of procrastination, so I believe there are steps we can take to increase our level of positivity. I'd like to share some of the ideas that work for me.

However, before I continue I'd like to say that I believe that personal development is a hands on project. What I mean is that what might work for you, might not be as effective for me and vice versa. I also mean that you can read idea after idea, but until you get into a frame where you make the ideas your own, you're going to have just that... someone else's ideas and techniques.

Simply put, you're encouraged to adjust the ideas I share to fit your own needs, and should you find them silly or something that doesn't work, simply discard them. You're the most important ingredient in your own self-improvement.

Now that I've gotten that out of the way here are the ideas I promised you.

First, lets look at negative and positive experiences. An interesting thing is that you could take several different people, put them in the same situation and one may view it as negative and the other as positive, and yet another may see it somewhere in the middle. Basically, experiences are just that - experiences. It's the way we frame them that makes them either positive or negative.

It's also worth noting that negative events tend to be more dense then positive ones. Which I believe explains why you can start your day out and have it going along perfectly, then one negative event happens and before you know it it's as though your entire day spiraled out of control into the dreaded "bad day".

In fact, in many cases if we could recount the particular days events objectively and without bias we'd likely see that an equal, or at least a fair number of things occurred that were of a positive nature as well. Because negatives are more dense, or heavier in weight if you will, we notice them more, say then positive occurrences.

So now that brings us to what I do to combat the normal day to day feelings of failure, discouragement, or negativity. Let me first say that if you're expecting some miracle idea here you may be disappointed. What you will find are some ideas that I know work in my own life and that I believe with enough practice will work in yours as well.

* Increase the amount of positive content you take in during the day - Very simply, make it a point to read or listen to books or tapes or what have you that carry a positive tone to them. This might sound trite, but they can do wonders to off set the negatives that bombard us all on a daily basis.

* Schedule or make an effort to expose yourself to positive people - Being around others that have a positive attitude, or achieve at a level of success you wish to is contagious. If you don't believe me, take the simple example of smiling. It's almost impossible not to smile back at a person that shares with you a genuine smile. Even if you're able to forgo smiling back, it still effects us on a positive level in some way.

The same is true by being around people that are overly optimistic and positive. Over time you're going to be likely to take on those traits yourself. There is one factor where this might not be the case though. If you enter into the conversation with such a person and you're not willing to, or looking to adopt such an attitude then you're likely going to give fuel to your negative feelings. Remember, negativity is dense.

Admittedly, this is a non-issue for you I'm sure because of the simple fact that you are reaching out to those to increase your own level of positive feelings in the first place. Even so, I still wanted to point it out.

Another thing that makes it a non-issue is that you'll find that those who are optimistic are likely to not spend a lot of time with you if you come to them with your negative energy. And why would they? After all, they're just like you... Trying to keep themselves in a more positive frame of mind!

* Take time during the day to relax and ponder your goals, or the positive things that you want to see occur in your life. If it's simply being more optimistic, then focus on that. The sky's the limit here. An important thing to remember is that as you are relaxing you may likely have negative events or thoughts creep into your mind. Remember, negative thoughts are dense!

If this happens don't worry, simply gently bring yourself back to the more positive outcomes you desire for yourself. Over time you are likely to see your results from this expand greatly.

* Track your positive achievements - If you're not keeping a personal success journal I sincerely hope you will consider doing so. Any number of people can offer up ideas on the "right way" to keep a journal. Obviously, I can only share with you the way I do it. So here goes... Track only positive events or achievements.

Believe me, your mind is working ninety to nothing trying to keep those negatives around anyway. There's no sense in recording those in your journal. That's why this is your success journal, and not just your diary. Recording our positives, as well as goals and desires allows us to make those things more concrete.

We take them from our mind to our hand, where they end up on paper. Suddenly you're sitting there with something very real staring you right in the face. There's no denying that positive experiences and worthwhile goals are right there, occurring in your life. Hopefully this illustrates the importance of keeping your own success journal.

* Review your personal success journal - Now here is where the idea above begins to take hold. In reviewing the ideas you've recorded you're going to find strength in them. Right before your eyes you will have a record of all your achievements. This in itself can be quite powerful when you find yourself in one of life's low points. In looking over your journal you'll be able to read your own success story.

There is power in the saying, "this to shall pass". Reviewing your personal success journal helps to make it strikingly clear that this is true.

* Acknowledge that it's ok to have less then stellar days - What I'm saying is that no matter who we are, we all have times where we don't feel we are performing at our personal best. Notice I said it's ok to acknowledge it. I didn't say it was ok to give power to it. The ideas above should all be helpful in reversing your negatives to a more positive outlook.

Again, keep in mind what I said about personal development being a hands on project. Give yourself permission to explore various ideas and develop those that work best for you. As a student of self-improvement myself I'd love to hear what you come up with... Wishing you days filled with many positives
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Dare To Experiment!

"Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks, breaking rules, making mistakes, and having fun!"

An excellent quality you'll want to develop in yourself, if you want to experience more fulfillment in life, is the willingness or courage to experiment. It is one of the key qualities of highly creative people. In fact, without this quality, many inventions, creative works, and more would have never materialized. They would have just stayed ideas in people's minds. And as a result, we would not have benefited from them.

I mean, think what would have happened if Thomas Edison (who has more than a thousand inventions to his name) had stopped experimenting after his 50th (or so) attempt at creating the light bulb? Or if he didn't experiment at all? Well, we wouldn't have the light bulb today, now, would we? And that goes for so many other things we now enjoy. Of course, besides the willingness to experiment, you need to be aware of other important factors that must come into play when experimenting. For example, it's also critical when experimenting that:

• You avoid prejudging the outcome (or avoid entertaining all kinds of negative thoughts). And you avoid worrying about the things you cannot control. Instead, you do your part by experimenting and then leave the outcome to sort itself out.
• You remain in a highly focused state (where nothing else matters except the task at hand).
• You make it a goal to enjoy the process (deciding ahead of time that you'll do your best to enjoy, or have fun, experimenting-in other words, deciding not to take things too seriously-makes a big difference, because it puts you in an empowering state).
• You be willing to make mistakes...even if it means you have to look awkward or foolish at times (Thomas Edison was said to have made thousands of attempts before finally inventing the light bulb...and he reached his goal despite the discouraging words of others).
• You believe (without a shred of doubt) that you'll eventually get your desired result (belief is a very powerful force).
• You persist in experimenting despite internal and external resistance.

Another good strategy you can use is to make it a habit of asking questions like the following, whenever you come up with an idea: "What if I did this?" Or, "What would happen if I did this?" Or, "What if I...(then simply finish the question based on your situation)?"

Questions that start with "What if...?" or "What would happen if...?" are powerful questions. (You see, those kinds of questions also motivate you to want to find out what will happen... in order to satisfy your curiosity.)
I can't stress enough the importance of developing this quality in yourself... the willingness, the courage to experiment. Looking back at my own life, had I not experimented as much as I did, many of the ideas I had in mind would have stayed that way... just ideas. That's why I strongly encourage experimentation. Not only do I know that it works, I also know that it's highly rewarding. (It's a wonderful feeling to see an idea-something that was once only in your head-turn into something that others can benefit from!)
Again, just remember, it's not enough to be willing to experiment. It's also important that you don't give up when there's resistance (resistance from within yourself or outside yourself... for example, the negative feedback of others). Because if you do, you'll never achieve your desired results. Persistence is a very important quality. In fact, so important that President Calvin Coolidge said the following:

"Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education alone will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent."

So, let me ask you: What's been playing around in your head for a long time? (Or lately?) What ideas have you written down? Or typed on your computer? What do you want to see materialize so that others could benefit?

If your inner critic is trying to hold you back, I suggest you completely ignore it. Then just go ahead and experiment, experiment, experiment. (In fact, be a person who constantly experiments. Be an "experimenter.") And see just how far you can go with your ideas. I can promise you that the emotional rewards will be great!



A NEW BEGINNING.

A new beginning is just a thought away. Let me start by saying that you are your thoughts. Did you know that life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent what you do with what happens to you? Think about it for a moment; you can't control life but you do have a say about how you respond to what happens in your life. Your success and happiness in life, is in direct proportion to the level of change and personal development you create in your life.

Your mind is the most powerful force that you possess. Thoughts have a basis in reality creation. Try experimenting with a simple exercise by being aware of your behavior and emotions the next time something good or bad occurs in your life. If in the moment, you were thinking positive thoughts, you most likely realized a positive result or circumstance; on the other hand, if you were thinking a negative thought, you probably experienced a negative result or experience.

A positive thought, will never create a negative result; likewise, a negative thought will never create a positive result. Therefore, it is safe to say that, "thought are things," based on their ability to create results or circumstances. It has been proven that thoughts are pure energy; based on what you are thinking, those thoughts can create positive or negative energy. Thoughts have the power to affect not only our lives, but they have the power to affect the people and events around us. 

By creating the right image or thought of what you want to achieve in your life, that thought or image has the power to create the appropriate circumstance or outcome that you wish to manifest!

In order to create "a new beginning" for ourselves, we must first realize that we have the power to change our thoughts. It starts with changing your thoughts in the present. We must begin to truly live in the present and embrace the act of living, which is the present moment. In order for you to be present, you must learn to live life consciously; act as if everything that touches your life matters but as if nothing is so important, that it can invade your peace or power.

Be aware of what you're thinking, think thoughts that are positive and inspirational. The simplest way to become aware of your thoughts is to become a "witness" to what you're thinking and how you're behaving. Stop living what I call "a mechanical life." Once you develop the discipline of being aware of your thoughts, you will then become more aware of your behavior. Once you are more aware of your behavior, you will have more insight into your actions and results.

Change your thoughts and you change your behavior; change the behavior and you change the actions you take; change the actions and you change the results. In doing this, you recondition your belief system and create new positive paradigms. Another way to say it is "change the inside and you change the outside."

As you become more aware of your thoughts and who you are being in the moment, take the time and begin to develop a new self-image of yourself, based on who you are and what you want for your life.  START NOW... THINK POSITIVE!

CAUSE OR EFFECT?

How do you live your life? At cause or at effect? It is important to be aware of this distinction. It is the rare individual who always lives his or her life at cause; however, far too many of us live a large portion of our lives at effect - responding to the whims, desires or emotional states of others.
Being at cause means that you are decisive in creating what you want in life and take responsibility for whatever you achieve. You see the world as a place of opportunity and you move toward achieving what you desire. If things are not unfolding as you would like, you take action and explore other possibilities. Above all, you know you have choice in what you do and how you react to people and events.
If you are at effect, you may blame others or circumstances for your bad moods, for what you have not achieved or for the disarray of your life in general. You may feel powerless or depend on others in order for you to feel good about yourself or about life. You may think, "If only my spouse, my boss, my co-workers, my parents, my children understood me and helped me achieve my dreams or did what I wanted or what is best for me, then life would be great." If you wait and hope for things to be different or for others to provide you with results or happiness, you are at effect, or a victim of circumstances. And really, how satisfying is that? How satisfying do you think it is for others to be around you? Believing that someone else is responsible for your happiness or your different moods is very limiting and gives this person mystical powers over you, which can cause both you and the other person a great deal of anguish.
Being at cause means you have choices in your life - you can choose what is best for you while ensuring the choice is ecological for those around you, in your community and your society. That is, you consider the consequences of your actions on others, while not taking responsibility for their emotional well-being. Believing you are responsible for the emotional well-being of someone else places a heavy burden upon you and can cause a great deal of stress.
Those who live their lives at effect often see themselves as victims with no choices whatsoever. The truth is that they do have choices but have chosen not to take action. They are simply reactive to whatever is thrust upon them.
Emotions such as guilt, fear, anxiety and resentment are the result of being at effect. People at effect tend to blame others and do not take responsibility for their actions. Emotions such as these can wear heavily on a person's body and life, and can be the root cause of many physical and personal issues.
Each morning when you wake up, you can either ask yourself, "I wonder what my day will bring," or "What do I choose to bring to my day?" The choice is yours!

It’s Never Too Late To Change Your Habits!

 

A (slightly) older reader wrote to me recently, wanting to know how to change her bad habits ingrained after so many many years of doing them. She wanted to know, “Is it too late to change?”

I can understand the feeling. Doing bad habits for years makes them deeply entrenched, and getting out of that trench might seem impossible, hopeless.

I once was stuck, and felt the weight of built up bad habits crushing, smothering, burying me. I felt helpless, like I had no control over myself, and was too discouraged to even try to change.

This discouragement is what does it. It’s not that changing bad habits is impossible. But if we are so discouraged we don’t try, we will never change them. To try and to fail is of little consequence, but to never start at all is fatal to the habit change.

I’m here to tell you, that changing bad habits is not impossible. No matter how long you’ve done them, no matter how many decades.

It can be done. By you. By taking a single step.

Here’s how.

Know as you start that you aren’t changing a mountain. You don’t have to change years of bad actions. Those actions are gone — they’ve evaporated into the ether, and you can forget them. Forgive yourself for them, then forget them.

You don’t need to run a marathon to change a habit. You just need to take a step. And you can take a step.

Consider for a moment your bad habit. You might have a dozen, but choose an easy one. Not the one you’re most afraid of — the one you think you can change relatively quickly.

Take a step back and think about this habit. When do you do it? What things trigger the habit — stress, food, drinking, socializing, boredom, sadness, waking, being criticized? What need does the habit fulfill for you? Know that it does fulfill a real need, and that’s why you keep doing it.

Realize something — stop here to drive home for yourself a crucial, crucial point: you must realize that you don’t need this habit to fulfill this need. You don’t need the habit. You can deal with stress in healthier ways. You can beat boredom. You can cope. You do not need the habit, and you will learn better ones with practice.

You might be feeling a bit overwhelmed at this point, but you’ve done the hardest part. Now you just need to take one more little step.

Commit to yourself to make a small tiny insignificant but powerful step each day. Commit fully, not half-assed. Commit by writing it down, and putting it up on your wall. Commit by telling a friend about it, and asking for help. Commit by putting it on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, your blog, a forum you frequent. Be all in.

Find a replacement habit. One that is healthier. One that fulfills the need. One that is easy. One that you can do after your trigger, instead of your bad habit. One that you enjoy and will look forward to. If you need to relieve stress, for example, consider walking, or pushups, or deep breathing, or self-massage.

You’re now ready to climb out of your trench. Remember, just a tiny tiny step.

Notice your urge to do the habit. Pause. Don’t do the bad habit. Let the urge pass, then do your new replacement habit.

Repeat, noticing the urge, letting the urge pass, not doing the bad habit, doing the good habit instead. You might mess up, but that’s OK. You’ll get better with practice.

Practice as often as you can, every day. You’ll get really good at it. Don’t worry about how long it takes. Keep doing it, one urge at a time.

Know, Consider, Realize, Commit, Find, Notice, Repeat, Practice. These are easy steps that don’t take a lot of work. You can do them as you sit here, reading this post.

It’s never too late. There is no habit that can’t be broken by the pressure of a single footprint. Make that footprint by taking a single step, today!

YOUR PURPOSE!

So if you don’t know your purpose in life, what kind of life will you end up living? I’ll sum it up with one word: OWNED. Your life is owned by others... their needs, their goals, their purposes. Why? Because if you don’t know your purpose, others will put you to good use achieving theirs. Advertisers spend billions every year to get you to take some small action. The company you work for or the customers you serve — they want to own you too. And how can you say no? You don’t have a better option, do you? Might as well get a job and buy stuff, make some customers happy along the way, and die quietly. That’s what others have planned for you. That seems to be what everyone else is doing. Might as well jump on the same bandwagon… seems safe enough.
Is that the plan you wish to follow?
If you happen to be someone who’s consciously aware of your purpose in life, then you already know what’s missing from the above — freedom. When you don’t choose your own purpose, a purpose will be given to you by others. You give up your freedom. Sure you still maintain the illusion of freedom. You can decide the low level actions you take each day. But you’ve lost the greatest freedom — the ability to choose your own answer to the question, “What is the meaning of my life?” If you let someone else answer this question for you, then you’re owned. And it may not even be a single person giving you that answer. Most likely it’s a collection of many sources: advertisers, employers, coworkers, friends, family, social pressures, etc. Each contributes a small piece to your answer. But because there are so many contributors, the answer that comes out is fuzzy and complicated. So you end up living a fuzzy, complicated life crafted by third-party biographers, many of which you’ve never met.
On the other hand, when you know your purpose and live it consciously each day, you’re free. No one else owns you. Whether you run your own business or work for someone else, you always see yourself as self-employed. You lead your own life, and although others may hold formal authority over you in some situations, you focus on what you can control and don’t whine about what you can’t, and in so doing, your influence expands to the point that you become a leader no matter what your formal position. Your leadership comes from knowing your purpose. While your circumstances will change, your inner compass is constant. You could be caught in a sea of external chaos, yet you’re always steering a clear straight-ahead course, which allows you to feel certain when no one else can. It doesn’t matter what position you hold. When you live your purpose, you become a leader. When you don’t live your purpose, you become property!
When you choose the kind of work you do, you consciously choose what aligns with your purpose. Every day your actions are your answer to the question, “What is the meaning of my life?” You’ll still be bombarded by messages from others who want to own you in some way, but those influences will become harmless background noise, unable to sway you. Whatever happens out there, it’s like the waves tossing around on a stormy sea while you’re 1000 ft below the surface, where the water is calm. By knowing your purpose, you begin living on a deeper level where surface happenings like corporate politics can’t knock you around. Your purpose provides unshakable stability and security.
If you don’t live on purpose, then you don’t even know how to set goals. Even when you think you’re being proactive, where are your goals really coming from? Ultimately, they’ll come from your past conditioning, which means they’re coming from others. You set a goal to buy a new house or a new car, but if those goals aren’t driven by your own conscious purpose, then they’re really the bank’s and the car dealer’s goals for you, both of which are spending lots of money to get you to adopt them. Even if you want to advance in your career and make more money, there are many who want you to achieve that goal too, especially since it will allow you to spend more money and do more productive work. So whose goals are you working so hard to achieve? Sure you think you want all those things. You’ve been taught to want them by your owners.
To break free of working on your owners’ goals, you have to know your own purpose. And this means you have to empty your head of all your owners’ thoughts and conditioning and get deep down to 1000 ft below sea level, where your thoughts are clear and calm, where you once again remember who you really are. At that level all the external fluff fades, and you can hear yourself clearly. You have to squeeze your brain like a sponge to get all those owners’ voices out. The owners’ voices are the ones that make you feel weaker and more afraid. Once you go deep enough though, your own voice will begin to reassert itself. You’ll remember what you’re here to do, and you’ll recall the state of passion that drives you to do it.
After that, the hard part is listening to this inner voice and trusting it. It’s so easy to trust your owners because they seem so certain, and there are so many of them. fulfilling.Your inner voice is much quieter, but if you let it drive you instead of the external world, you’ll come to know your purpose, and your life will become immensely fulfilling!